Preparing for your wedding can be a lot of work. There are many things to think about and decisions to make. It can be easy to get overwhelmed and start saying yes to anything that comes your way. But it’s important to remember that you don’t have to do everything. You should say no to some things to avoid added stress and drama. Here are 10 of them.

Do “like everyone”

The craziest thing you can do is get married because you want to be like everyone else. Don’t do it because other people think you should. No standards say when you have to get married, change jobs or become parents. It is different for each person. If you don’t have the desire or strength to be a wife, take some time for yourself to figure out what you want.

To be manipulated

It is a good idea to buy a dress that your friend recommends. You should also invite the guests your mom asked. You can agree if someone offers to take pictures of your wedding day. But make sure that you are not disappointed in the end. It is your wedding, and you should not have to make too many concessions. You should be able to refuse things that you don’t want.

Listen to the people who want to help

When someone offers to help with your wedding, it’s nice to be able to say yes. But there are also times when you need to say no. For example, suppose you have a friend constantly offering unsolicited advice or trying to take over. In that case, telling them you appreciate their help is okay, but you have everything under control.

Follow old traditions

Just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean you have to do it that way. If you don’t want to wear a white dress or have a bridal shower, don’t do it. Do what feels right for you and your fiance.

Today, many couples are choosing to have a more personalized wedding. It means they hire professionals to help them with every detail of the wedding, from the coordination of the day to the selection of unique traditions that are meaningful to them. You can also choose to create your unique holiday, one in which only those traditions that have personal meaning for you are observed.

Spend a lot on small things

It is not worth spending extra money on surprising guests with expensive gifts or original decor. You will already be spending a lot on the celebration, so don’t go over budget just for these things.

Some guests won’t care about the little things, and others might lose sight of the decorations you spent a lot of money on. But the most important thing is the atmosphere, the program, and how well guests can communicate with the newlyweds. Of course, you can spend money on more important things: like a good presenter, photographer, or a delicious menu.

Overspending in general

When planning your wedding, it is important to set a budget and stick to it. You will always be tempted to spend more money than you have but resist it. It is not worth going into debt for your wedding day. Planning a luxurious wedding can become a financial burden that takes years to pay off.

Instead, focus on what is important to you and your fiance. If you want a simple and elegant wedding, don’t waste your money on things that won’t add to the overall experience.

Copy someone else’s wedding

Your wedding day is about you and your fiance, not impressing other people. So don’t try to copy someone else’s wedding. It is much more important to focus on what you both want and create beautiful memories that will last a lifetime.

Try to please everyone

It is especially true for parents who help prepare for a wedding. Most likely, relatives will see the wedding in their way and believe that it is an excellent opportunity to please them.

Now it is time to find out if this wedding celebration suits you and your fiancé. If it is not, do not be afraid to say so directly. A wedding should be about your dreams, not your parents’ ideas about how everything should be.

Do not give in to pressure from others, even if they are close to you. Remember that this is your day, and you should do what makes you happy.

Prepare a complicated wedding dance

This beautiful tradition started not so long ago but quickly became popular. Today it is hard to imagine a wedding without a dance between the bride and groom. It can be an impromptu medley or a romantic waltz. But what if the groom does not like to dance, the bride is shy, and there is no time to prepare? Remember that you don’t have to prepare a complex dance. You can also slow dance to beautiful music or do something special like a song you wrote yourself.

The important thing is that you are both comfortable and enjoy yourselves. Do not try to do something that is not natural for you, just to please the guests. They will understand and appreciate your efforts no matter what you do.

Rush things

It is a widespread mistake. Many couples want to get married as soon as possible, without considering whether they are ready for it. As a result, they may not have considered all the essential aspects of married life, such as finances, children, and even their relationship.

Take your time and think about everything carefully before you make a decision. There is no need to rush into marriage because everyone else is doing it. You can wait a few months or even a year if you want to make sure that you are making the right decision.